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Freedom fighting

In ethics, freedom, philosophy, relationship on December 9, 2013 at 12:41

Did you notice that the people who are the loudest at claiming themselves freedom fighters are the first to get angry at you if you disagree? They can’t stand your freedom to have your own opinion.

Instead of “hello”

In about me, ethics, politics, relationship, russian, xenophobia on December 5, 2013 at 12:47

Imagine you ask somebody which country they are from originally (I probably wouldn’t as some people may not want to speak about this or they may feel upset that they accent shows). Imagine you have got some kind of reply. Would you then rushed into saying that oh, yes, you heard about that country,  it’s well known for (pick from the list) evil government,  racism, slavery, crime, bureaucracy,  obesity, poverty, injustice, unemployment, etc?

Similar conversions happened  to me twice last week. People honestly expect to maintain friendly conversation started with these accusations. I do love to criticise my native Russia when appropriate.  But  when strangers are talking to me in this manner it is like being held responsible for all negative news stories or just pure propaganda is completely different. Another thing that drives me mad is when strangers start to treat me as a zoo animal,  discussing my cheekbones, shape of the face or accent.

I thought that after 15 years living abroad I would get used to that. Apparently not. I still feel afraid to talk to stangers.

My Shop Reserving Policy

In about me, art, crafts, Британия, ethics, legal issues, moral issues, my artworks, painting, portrait, relationship, shopping, textile art, traditions, xenophobia on February 2, 2013 at 10:41

Just letting out some steam….

Dear customers,

if you would like to reserve an item from the shop you’ll need to pay a non-refundable deposit of 10 pound a week. Please notice that if you express a wish to come on a particular day I can not guarantee that the shop will be open at that time.

Let me explain the reasons for all this. I am a novice shop keeper.  And a very surprised one. Often people come to the shop, look around and say to me: “I really like this painting” or “I want you to do commission for me. I definitely will be back tomorrow / on Friday / next week, etc.”

I am accustomed to trust people. On the day named I would come and wait till the Market is closed – even if most of other traders are already gone. Usually nobody shows up. Later I see these customers again and most of them say absolutely nothing to me.

On few occasions either I felt ill or cold, or someone from my family was poorly and I would rather be at home. I am not exaggerating.

It is not just me I am concerned about. Probably other small shops and stalls owners who really are struggling at the moment feel the same way. Is it my goods which are not good enough on careful consideration or is it my accent suggesting that I am not around here and could be treated less humanly?

Imagine if you are employed and on the day you expected to be paid your boss ignores you just like nothing happened? The income of small business owners depends on you. We live by hopes your give us.

It is perfectly fine to say “I will think about buying this”. Great!  Nobody needs false hopes, disappointments or later embarrassment.

Yours sincerely.

In Uncategorized on November 13, 2012 at 07:02

Relationships dont always make sense. Especially from the outside.S.Dessen … #apples #autumn #fruit #fall #November #branch #branches #two #red #bluesky #appletree #couple #relationship #all_shots #Wales #яблоки #ветви #linandara_plants #linandara_trees

Kindness and happiness

In relationship on September 30, 2012 at 06:19

There maybe mad bullies around but people who say humans are mostly evil, corrupt, not kind haven’t been very observant. Look at all everyday’s little interactions: asking directions, buying food, etc. In absolute majority of cases people, strangers or not, are good to each other. This is why we are so shocked and upset when the opposite happens.

I’ve heard from several people that in places and times when and where there is violence, suffering, tension, war, people are surprisingly warm and kind to each others. When my grandmother was escaping the horrors of WWII from Western Russia to the Central Asia with a baby on her hand, she,  as she always told me, had so much help from absolute strangers. It is a scary thought that we need disasters to be good. But I think it is other way round. When there is peace and prosperity people might look cold and distant from each other but that’s because we mostly don’t really badly need help. We can survive on our own. We all subconsciously know about this although consciously might wish for warmer relationship. Perhaps people should try and learn to live in relatively good times and still be close to each other.

There are things in life which I can’t change, I just have to adapt. But out of things I can change it seems that there are just three simple things which make me happy: pausing to soak in the beauty, having good relationship with people surrounding me and trying to be as creative as possible in every aspect of my life. Secret of happiness? Easy! At least in theory…

In Uncategorized on September 12, 2012 at 15:41

Actions are right in proportion as they tend to promote happiness, wrong as they tend to produce the reverse of happiness

John Stuart Mill, Utilitarianism, 1863

In Uncategorized on September 12, 2012 at 13:46

There is an optical illusion about every person we meet

Ralph Waldo Emerson

In Uncategorized on September 11, 2012 at 19:25

You know when you gave your love away
It opens your heart, everything is new
And you know time will always find a way
To let your heart believe it’s true

Enya (performed by)

In Uncategorized on September 6, 2012 at 05:24

Reason, Observation and Experience – the Holy Trinity of Science – have taught us that happiness is the only good; that the time to be happy is now, and the way to be happy is to make others so.

Robert Green Ingersoll,  1876

In Uncategorized on September 1, 2012 at 06:49

Wear a smile and have friends; wear a scowl and have wrinkles. What do we live for if not to make the world less difficult for each other?

Attributed to George Eliot

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